Alumni Meet and Greet!

For the past few weeks, I’ve been working on an extra-curricular event for the local chapter of my Alumni Association.  The leadership wanted to organize an event to re-energize the chapter and decided that a Happy Hour Meet and Greet would be ideal. It is difficult to create events that appeal to everyone, but you must start somewhere.  An opportunity to share appetizers and a cocktail or two with fellow alums seemed like a good way to begin Summer, and to reignite the chapter.  Organizing cocktail parties is right in my wheelhouse, so I was compelled to volunteer.  For those of you who have followed my posts, this isn’t a surprise.

 

Organizing an event in Atlanta is no easy task.  The Atlanta metro area is comprised of 6 million people living in 30 counties.  Our 6,000 alumni are spread over a huge geographical area.  Traffic is a big consideration, especially during rush hour.  The ability to use public transportation reduces a lot of risk and anxiety which should enhance the value of the event.  For those familiar with Uber or Lyft, Midtown is a target-rich environment.  Our group chose Thursday, June 27 as a good day for our Meet and Greet.  As it falls between Memorial Day and Independence Day we won’t be competing with any holidays.  Thursday is usually a good day as it is close to the weekend, without the obvious family conflicts.  We selected a central location in Midtown convenient to MARTA.    So, I did my part.  Now it’s up to the communications folks to bring the alums.

 

I didn’t become active in the alumni association until 2003, after living in Atlanta for seven years.  Prior to 2003, my corporate career had me moving every three years and I had little time to think about alumni activities.  Also, I had family obligations to consider.  Besides, the alumni association couldn’t find me until I put down permanent roots.  So, I attended a few events and made some new friends, including a fraternity brother I hadn’t seen since college.  Eventually, that led to a seat on the National Alumni Board which lasted four years.

 

People become active in their alumni association for different reasons, but they all begin with a common bond; they shared an experience earning a degree.  Each member joins an alumni chapter when the time is right, and they have a compelling reason.  An alumni affiliation is especially relevant if you are new to a city, working to establish yourself. At the most fundamental level, it’s about making friends.  As with any other interest group, there is a generational element in play.  For more mature alumni, it may be about giving back to the community by sharing their experience (mentoring) or financial resources.   My reason for becoming active was multi-faceted.

 

I have spoken before about the value of participating in one’s alumni association for career development.  I continue to be surprised, however, that people are slow to make that connection.  It may be a fundamental misunderstanding about networking.  Most people think of networking to find a job and to further their career.  However, networking is a vehicle to achieve an objective by meeting people who can help you.  It is also an opportunity for you to help others.  It’s is a two-way street.  It isn’t exclusively for building one’s career.  People join interest groups for a variety of reasons that are not career oriented.  There are groups to satisfy every interest imaginable.  Members of each group are busy looking for people who can help them, or whom they can help.  If you want to be a better fisherman, you will hang out with other fishermen to improve your skills.  The point is, every group begins with a common interest to attract members.

Many view participation in their alumni association as one-dimensional.  They think it’s all about drinking beer and watching football games.  I admit, there is nothing like a great athletic program to generate attendance for game-watch parties.  But that is just one dimension of the alumni experience.  The reality is that people participate in their alumni association for different reasons, sometimes with multiple goals in play.

 

I am looking forward to our Meet and Greet.  I hope to catch up with old friends and to make some new friends.  Who knows, I may make a great business connection.  It’s happened before.

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Houston, We Have A Problem!

I swear, I must have been transported into an alternate Universe this week, where I was an actor in a sitcom.  Something resembling “I love Lucy.”  You know how sitcoms are written, there is always the main plot with a few sub-plots working.  By the end of the show, all the plots converge on one common theme. Yes, I was living through a sitcom episode in my alternate Universe.

It began a week ago Friday evening when my wife’s car wouldn’t start.  She was at a job site which required the car to be towed to the nearest Dealer.  It sat there until Monday when the Service Department opened.

As she is a residential contractor, she rented a car to keep her projects on track.  Unfortunately, she fell in love with the rental and decided it was time for a new car.  It must have been the electronics package.  Naturally, I protested!  Her car is ten years old but hasn’t even cracked 100,000 miles.  In fact, it is very reliable and has had few problems.  From my perspective, the car isn’t even broken in.  We have been married for 43 years, so I knew how this would unfold.  My best logic would be deployed to no avail.  I could only hope to minimize my losses by working at the margins.  By the beginning of the week, we weren’t speaking much.  Houston, we have a problem!

I realize that most purchases are made on emotion and later justified by tortured logic.  Surprisingly, I have come to believe that is not limited to the consumer world.  All too often I have seen that scenario play out in the business world.  This is was our sub-plot.

Monday, I met with a senior consultant for the local office of a National outplacement firm.  He invited me to explore an opportunity to collaborate. I told him how we help our members understand and adapt to the new employment paradigm.  I explained my view that we are all ‘free agents’ in a dynamic environment.  Professionals will move between W-2 and 1099 status as tenures become shorter and shorter.  We have little control over the employment situation created by the digital transformation of the economy.  He invited me back to speak to his clients.

Tuesday, I moderated the monthly meeting of the BENG Atlanta Chapter.  Our featured speaker, Erica McCurdy, a Master Coach, and ITB Partner facilitated a discussion entitled “Not every problem has a solution.”  The gist of her message was don’t confuse situations with problems. There is a difference.   A situation is a state of being; a confluence of events beyond one’s control.  Situations require one to adapt whereas problems require solutions.  Was it merely a coincidence that I was hearing this message from Erica?

It’s useful to know the difference between problems and situations to focus your energy on things you can change.  If you try to change things that cannot be changed, your state of mind will suffer.  By resolving things that can be changed, you will reduce stress and improve your life, especially if you eliminate unproductive effort.

Successful people view problems as opportunities to grow, improve, and adapt.  For them, problems are a part of life.  Their positive attitude toward problem-solving improves their outcomes.  Experience makes future events easier to traverse.  We should accept problems as a normal, unavoidable condition of life.

I spent the rest of the week evaluating situations and problems.   As I dissected what I assumed were problems, I realized that some were situations.  In these cases, I found opportunities to employ my leadership skills.

This week unfolded within the context of my wife’s desire for a new car.  I had a situation.  She had a problem. When she sets her mind on a course of action, I become a spectator.  During our marriage, I can’t remember winning a major battle, but I’ve had success at the margins.  Guys, I think you know what I mean.  While I became more obstinate, digging in my heals, she negotiated a better deal.  I lost, of course.  I knew I would. My life was imitating art.  Today, she is very happy with her new car.  I live on to fight another day.

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April Atlanta BENG Meeting featuring Erica McCurdy

Business Executives Networking Group

Join Us for the April Atlanta BENG Chapter Meeting

featuring Erica McCurdy, MCC, Member of Forbes Coaches Council is the Managing Member of McCurdy Solutions Group, LLC.

Date And Time

Tue, April 9, 2019

7:30 AM – 9:30 AM EDT

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Erica will be presenting:

Not every problem has a solution

Location Bella’s Gourmet Kitchen

350 Embassy Row Northeast

Sandy Springs, GA 30328

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About Erica McCurdy

Professional coach, consultant, and mentor with years of experience leading teams in support of CEOs and top leadership. Passionate about my community, veterans, women’s leadership initiatives, and teens. Strong and capable administrator. Able to make strategic decisions with limited information. Understanding of confidentiality. Capable of handling challenging situations. Comfortable creating content as well as presenting to groups. Well read, educated, and traveled. Atlanta native. Versed in change management theories as well as differing cultural change initiatives. Linkedin

The Atlanta chapter of the Business Executives Networking Group (BENG) is a multidiscipline, independent group of job seekers, those currently employed and business networkers, who are willing to help others. Current membership includes mid to senior level executives with over ten (10) years of business experience. Past attendees have come from the financial management, information technology, legal, manufacturing, engineering, transportation, logistics, distribution, and general management industries. We actively seek new members from all disciplines.

Monthly meetings are structured to help each member get the maximum benefit.

BENG Networking Meetings:

  • Are approximately two hours in length.
  • Are typically held monthly.
  • Range from 10 to 30 attendees, but the average is 20.
  • A skill building presentation.
  • Allows each attendee 30 seconds to introduce themselves, talk about their background and expertise, and to present their Target Companies and networking needs.
  • Please bring business cards and your marketing plan if you have one.

Networking meetings provide members with an opportunity to sharpen their networking skills, meet peers from various disciplines and share business opportunities and job leads.

Interact, Participate, Engage

I’m reading Strategic Connections, an interesting book about networking recommended by a friend.  So far, I have found it to be insightful. This past week I came across the author’s list of the 10 biggest mistakes members make. It was amusing and to the point, but sadly truthful. I thought those insights needed to be repeated. However, I’d take a different tact and make the point more positively.

 

If you plan to join a networking group do so with a strategy in mind. What are you looking to gain from the relationships you develop? Is it for professional development? Or, maybe your intention is to generate more customers. Then again, maybe it’s just for fun and fellowship around your favorite hobby. Whatever your objective, be clear about your expectations and make a commitment to the group.  Otherwise, membership is pointless.

 

So, you’ve joined a networking group.  Now that you’re a member, plan to enjoy the full benefits of that association. Your first objective is to become an active participant. Make a commitment to attend every meeting you can. Arrive early and leave late. Don’t come to hear the speaker or enjoy the breakfast and leave. If that is all you want from the group, save your membership fee.  You can eat breakfast at home and watch the subject matter on YouTube. But, don’t expect to get any referrals for new opportunities.

 

Attend the meetings with the intent to be remembered.  Stand out from the crowd. An easy way to stand out is by the way you dress.  Ladies may wear a distinctive piece of jewelry. I know gentlemen who’ve established a persona by wearing a vest. A vest is stylish, but not commonly worn and will get attention. I like to wear shirts with French cuffs, even if I’m not wearing a suit and tie. Women often wear distinctive pens or scarves to be different. Flag pens, company pens, or even pens from civic associations are noticeable.  These ideas also serve as conversation starters.  Having a distinctive style is a good start, but you still won’t be noticed if you stand in the corner by yourself. Get into the crowd, mingle, introduce yourself to a stranger.  Ask questions of the presenter.

 

The second broad theme is to interact with others. Don’t hesitate to walk up to a group and introduce yourself. After all, it is expected.  It’s the point of networking, meeting people you don’t know to expand your network. Join in the conversation.  Show interest by asking questions. That’s how relationships are formed. Don’t spend your time talking exclusively to people you already know.  If you find someone standing alone in a corner, go introduce yourself.  Often, you’ll find these folks interesting, albeit on the reserved side. And while you’re interacting, focus on important topics relevant to the group. Save discussions about the weather and sports for other occasions. If you’re new to the group, try to learn about their culture, norms, and protocols.

 

The final point is to become involved in the group. Look for opportunities to demonstrate your competence and leadership skills. Take on an assignment to help the group. Recently, Paula a member of ITB Partners volunteered to organize a Speed Networking Event, over cocktails and hors d’oeuvres. The event was a big success.  Paula was recognized for her initiative.  You may volunteer to speak on an important topic or serve on a committee. If your group meets for breakfast, organize an after-hours cocktail party. Show your commitment and your ability to plan, organize, and follow through. These activities demonstrate your competence, leading to more referrals.

 

Networking is the most effective way to land that new job or to expand your business. Approach the concept with enthusiasm and a plan.  As with any skill, networking can be learned. With a little guidance and practice, you will gain confidence. Confidence leads to credibility and credibility leads to opportunities.

 

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